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It Prevents a Person from Doing a Big Mistake!

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If you are doing a big mistake, or you have performed certain illegal behavior that can possibly hurt others, then never blame your self esteem for this. Often people use to do the same when they are behaving in a wrong way. There is absolutely nothing to do with the self esteem in such cases. It cannot contribute or propel you to behave badly that use to hurt others. Instead of that you should look at the circumstances that have forced or propelled you to do so. In this way, you can eliminate this issue further and can make your life beautiful.

However, what in case, kid has the poor self esteem? In place of feeling safe over the other children, low self esteem kid feels awkward, nervous & like he does not fit in.  Other children sense this & think he is very ‘shy’ and ‘different’.  He does not bond with other kids & is alone that makes him MORE insecure & lowers the self-esteem still.  Eventually as other kids progress, date, form cliques, socialize outside school… low self esteem child, which was not able to connect in beginning is to shut out of this.  He is actually left behind developmentally & not corrected in right time will go onto scar child in adulthood. The self esteem is all that you have – and what are you worth? How you calculate this? Self worth is the combination of self esteem, confidence & self respect.

The self esteem is the internal sense of the worth. It actually reflects the inner confidence & self respect. The self esteem outwardly shines & is been demonstrated by actions that one takes. Internal self worth that consists of the self esteem, confidence and respect, may get external net worth. While comparing the individuals with weak self esteem to people with the strong one, and what are obvious differences? Does this play very important role? Obviously, it does. The self esteem is essence of the personality, as well as is been reflected in self worth & net worth.

Self Talk

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Self esteem worry picSelf Esteem – What you tell yourself, and your beliefs about yourself, contribute in an obvious and literal way to your self-esteem. If you are feeling inadaquate and powerless, it’s very likely because you belive that you are. By the same token, you can raise your self-esteem simply by working on changing your self talk and basic beliefs about yourself.

When you catch yourself engaging in self-critical or self-victimizing inner dialogues, follow these steps:

1.Disrupt the chain of negative thoughts with some method that diverts your attention away from your mind and helps you to be more in touch with your feelings and body. Any of the following may work:

-Physical activity (household chores or exercise)

-Taking a walk outside

-abdominal breathing exercises

-Five minutes of progressive muscle relaxation

-Snapping a rubber band against your wrist

The point is to do something that slows you down and gives you a bit of distance from  your negative thoughts. It’s difficult to counter negative self-talk when you’re tense and your mind is racing.

2. Challenge your negative self-talk with appropriate questioning if necessary. Good questions to raise with your inner critic might be “What’s the evidence for this?’, “Is this always true?”, or “Am I looking at both sides of this issue?”

3. Counter your negative inner dialogue with positive, self-supportive statements. You may want to design your own positive statements specifically tailored to refute your critic’s statements one by one. Alternatively, you can draw positive counterstatements from a list of affirmations. I will discusss a list of affirmations in my next article.