Happiness and good relationships are vital aspects in life. You can’t be assured of any happiness in you if you don’t relate well with other people as we often need their support in everything we do. As we all know, no man is an island and we need other people to survive. When you value yourself and those around you, this translates to high self esteem and encourages those you relate with to feel good about themselves as well. Having good relationships with your friends and family is vital and this can be through communication, doing things together, encouraging one another and looking out for each other.

With all the negative outcomes in the lives, they are ones, which have to raise the self esteem most. Unluckily, they are not motivated for seeking the self esteem coach, read the self esteem books and attend the self-esteem courses. Not till things get actually bad they can begin to look for some help. Instead waiting till things get totally worse, it is good to begin to look for different methods to raise the self-esteem instantly. Even though you think your self esteem is about average it is good to improve it rather than waiting for this to sink lower. The self esteem is relationship you have to yourself, sense of the personal worth. The self esteem may thus appear like the private issue. With the low self esteem the lives are been affected negatively in different directions. Less friends, short lasting as well as less satisfying relationships, depression, worse physical health, anxiety, stress and so on.

But, self esteem affects not just your life, but also it affects lives of everybody around you. Level of the self esteem affects how you actually treat others who you interact with and avoid interaction with. Also, you probably have been victim of somebody with the low self esteem yourself. Perhaps the colleague who try to impose their way on others, teacher who do their best to make life miserable, and maybe the grumpy neighbor.



To some extent your physical appearance can tell the degree of your self esteem. For instance somebody with low self esteem feels that he is of less/no value, he is not loved, cared for, appreciated or respected by other people and will seem sad all the time. He will not be able to define himself as he will be confused not knowing what to do nor where to go. Unlike the person with high self esteem who will be happy and willing to talk and relate well with others. This is because he will feel good within himself, excited and grateful about life and thus ready to tackle anything. He will also mind how he carries himself around; with dignity and pride.

Unluckily, these people who actually are in need of raising the self esteem and people with very low self-esteem, are less likely when compared to people with the high self-esteem to do something to increase self esteem. People who require self esteem most are least possible to seek this. In all of self esteem program courses, which I have led, majority of participants are women and men with the high self esteem & good self awareness. It is no coincidence and have the high self esteem you have to often engage in the activities, which increase the self esteem. The self esteem does not appear out of nothing.

Many people who attend self esteem programs, read Self Esteem Toolbox, and contact me for the personal coaching are interested to develop themselves & in optimising the well being. Thus they are been used to doing things, which increase the well being. When you do something very good for yourself then you can tell to your brain you are very important & worthy to be taken care, and thus you can raise the self-esteem. The people who aren’t interested in the personal development do not seek out the self developing activities & are thus not used doing things, which improve the self-esteem. Thus the self-esteem is normally lower.



Love plays a very big role in self esteem. Love is usually the most significant thing to have in life. As the greatest factor in improving self esteem, love symbolizes something good and no bad things are associated with it. When you love other people, you will never have bad feelings towards them and you will always remain loyal to them. This creates a better feeling that increases your self esteem. With love, ones actions are positive. Positive deeds make you have a high self esteem. Love is not only for people but also for our occupations. Loving our occupations and things we do makes us have high self esteem. Loving ourselves, no matter what image we portray, makes us confident in life. All the activities, which help you feel much better, physically & mentally, are as well good for the self-esteem.

Friends: Surrounding yourself by the positive, loving and supportive people can help you build self esteem. In case, you know this people you must spend more time. in case, you do not have enough of people in life you will find them just by joining any groups of high self esteem people. Probably you can find a few club and society in the local area. Or you may easily join the online community. Also, there are many positive groups of the people that are very much interested in the happiness, self esteem as well as personal development at Facebook.

Diary: Writing in the diary is just like having the conversation to yourself. Is there any good method to get and know yourself? In case, you keep the diary then you can realize good things and all non useful negative ideal that you have. And it can make it very simple to see what side of yourself you would like to keep & what parts you would like to develop.

Films: Films will pull your esteem down & they will lift your self esteem up. In case, you select films, which are positive, inspiring & make you feel very good then you may use them as the self esteem tool.



Forgiveness is a very important virtue that helps in increasing ones self esteem. When one forgives others, they become relieved of that “thing” that was creating a boundary between them. This way, one is able to gain respect from the other as forgiveness goes a very long way. Without forgiveness, one has very odd and bad feelings that always lead to anger. These feelings are a path to low self esteem, thus, without forgiveness one develops low self esteem. Since forgiveness relieves one from all these disapproving feelings, it brings about a reunion and people become social and happy with each other, which increases self esteem. Forgiveness also improves people’s relationships and makes strong friendships, through which one generates high self esteem.

Group coaching: One more choice for social person who would like to build the self esteem together with the expert and other participants, is the group coaching. The group coaching that is led by the self esteem coach will have same power as the personal coaching and giving social support from many people instead one (coach).

Personal coaching: The personal coaching is your choice in case, you are actually serious & wish to develop your self-esteem. The self-esteem coach can help you find the strengths & point out what you actually want to work on. The self-esteem coach will ask you questions you require to find answers as well as motivation you need.

Self awareness exercises: Developing the self awareness you can raise the self esteem. Meditation is good in case, you wish to develop your self-awareness. You may try yoga and some other type of the martial arts. Practicing these you can probably raise the self esteem without noticing.

Music: Like with the films, music is good & bad for self-esteem. Providing you listen to the songs with the positive lyrics and cheerful songs and relaxing songs, and they can help you build your self esteem. Songs with the positive lyrics are particularly good as they brainwash you with the positive messages of yourself.