Self esteem varies with the various ethnic backgrounds in the world. This matters most on how it affects girls as well as their confidence. With most of these ethnic backgrounds, like the African-American girls, self esteem makes them socially acceptable and romantically attractive. It also makes them have high achievements academically hence high self worth. With some other ethnic backgrounds like the Latina girls, their high self esteem makes them feel alluring to the other sex while with the Caucasian girls, their high self esteem makes them gain athletic competence and social acceptance. On the other hand, these Caucasian ethnic backgrounds are not pleased with their appearance and that lowers their self esteem. Ethnicity affects the self esteem in girls as they have different opinions. You need to expand the pleasure time like you emotionally can. See how much of time you may spend having fun prior to the inner critic voice tries and take over.
Give yourself some time limits on the “Pity Parties”. Try and observe in a way that you speak to yourself. In case, you find that there is an internal voice, which wants to point everything, which is wrong or bad about you and your situation, then you can’t seem to stop negative self talk, and allow the negative self talk one time in a day, however set the time limit. For instance, “For next fifteen minutes I gone to think & feel bad I can about myself”.. Think of everything that you do not like about yourself, and how your life is the disaster, how you are fat, thin, lonely, poor, hopeless, stupid, etc.
Allow 15 minutes of the negative thinking, however at an end of 15 minute period stop. While negative thoughts come up, tell yourself you cannot think about this right now, however you can think about this tomorrow during the 15 minute of pity party think self esteem. I found the action very helpful. When I allowed my negative thing to reign free, energy behind this disappeared. Instead of fifteen minutes, my pity parties actually turned in 5 minutes, and then 2 minutes, and I rarely require one will build self esteem. Many times I would find myself laughing how ridiculous my negative voice was. Lots of people benefit from making use of anti-depressants. Check out with your doctor in case, your energy is low, and you feel indifferent and depressed about your life self esteem.